Toy W Me

Soft Limits, BDSM

Pop culture has led us to believe that BDSM is a fetish that’s way too out of the norm for the average person to delve into. I’m guessing I’m not alone in picturing someone tied up with a gag in their mouth, some bondage rope, a fetish collar, maybe a spanking paddle? After all, isn’t this what we see plastered across the internet when we search the term BDSM? Up until only recently, it was beyond taboo to even discuss, let alone admit to wanting a little domination, restriction, or even humiliation.  The vague definitions lend to the apprehensions of experimenting. BDSM is a very erotic behavior, a kink that many shy away from strictly because of the fear of the unknown. I’m telling you, there’s a whole world of good, healthy, safe, consensual, excitement out there waiting to be had! Read up and, wrap your head around the concept and let your inner naughty out!
A wet, cold scoop of vanilla ice-cream is good but adding some fudge and whipped cream makes it delicious. Add some mouthwatering toppings to your sex life. Create a discreet ‘adult toy box’ and fill it with props. Start out with some bed restraints for lightly tying up your partner. Feathers and other soft, sensual items for teasing are a must, and build from there.  Choose a few scenarios that pique your interest such as Role Play. Discuss with your partner what he or she is willing to try. Set the groundwork well ahead of time to give each of you ample time to be confident with the decision. Trust and respect and safety are an enormous element of a good, healthy BDSM experience. ‘Too far’ for one may not be ‘far enough’ for someone else. This is why we at ToywMe reinforce even more the necessity to having an open discussion well in advance. Let the fears slip away and allow the excitement to fill you up!